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On the refusing of a marriage licence …

16 Oct

… for a mixed race couple.

Yes, really.

In Louisiana.

In 2009, just in case any of us thought that we’d entered some weird space-time continuum and were back in 1959.

The full story is reported here in “The Guardian”, but can be summarised with this extract – my use of bold:

“A Louisiana justice of the peace said he refused to issue a marriage licence to an interracial couple out of concern for any children the couple might have.

Keith Bardwell, justice of the peace in Tangipahoa parish, said it was his experience that most interracial marriages did not last long.

“I’m not a racist. I just don’t believe in mixing the races that way,” Bardwell said. “I have piles and piles of black friends. They come to my home, I marry them, they use my bathroom. I treat them just like everyone else.”

Bardwell said he asked everyone who called about marriage if they were a mixed race couple. If they were, he did not marry them.”

The bit about the bathroom usage immediately reminded me of a wonderful (and recommended) book I read a few months ago called “The Help”, set in Mississippi in 1962, about a group of maids who work with one white woman to tell their stories (“black women raise white children but can’t be trusted not to steal the silver”) as part of the then burgeoning civil rights movement. In the book, it is very much the norm for “the help” to have their own toilet/washroom facilities and one employer feels societal pressure to build such an arrangement for her maid in a corner of the garage, rather than risk her family being contaminated by sharing the same facilities within the house.

Doesn’t it come across that this attitude lingers on in Louisiana, 47 years later? Quite incredible that permitting people of a different race to share your urinating environment is viewed as a mark of racial tolerance …

And how can it even be legal for anyone to refuse to marry two people on the grounds of race? Will watch the outcome of this story with interest.

Mugger-in-law?

11 Aug

When I was in India last year, I met and got chatting to a lot of women at the annual NASSCOM IT Women’s Leadership summit in Bangalore.

One of my abiding memories from those conversations was the number of times that the phrase “My mother-in-law says …” came up – and never in a good way, but always in a “blocking me from doing something new and different” kind of context.

I blogged about this at the time and wrote that it seemed to me that marriage in India seemed to be not so much about the man that you marry but about his mother, based on the women who said things like:

“Oh, my husband is lovely and very proud of me for [getting promoted at work/achieving my second degree whilst working full time/winning an award/etc] but his mother is very difficult and thinks I should be at home all the time just like she was …”

So spotting this news story tucked away in a tiny corner of a UK newspaper made me wince:

Mugger-in-law

It’s a clever headline, but the story behind it, as reported here in the Times of India, is quite thought provoking, confirming as it does the low status which women in India endure even today and which has now been ratified by the Indian Supreme Court.

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